How often do you pay attention to the words you use and how you sound to others?
Much like everything else in life, it’s easy to fall into autopilot mode.
Recording videos forced me to start paying attention and make new connections with the power of words, the words that were coming out of my mouth, and the way it influenced those that were listening.
While most of our attention goes to saying the right words when presenting, sometimes the most obvious of what is not being said is easily overlooked.
Here are three subtle changes that can make a big impact when presenting on video or on stage:
1. Space fillers(umm, uhh, so, and, like, you know) – Space fillers take away from your message and distract your audience. They usually show up when you’re trying to figure out what to say next, thinking something through in your mind, or transitioning from one thought to another. Connect your words together and stop for commas and periods only.
2. To be honest – This gives your audience the impression that everything you said up until ‘to be honest’ you may not have been completely honest. You don’t want to give your audience any reason to question your credibility and position as an expert.
3. Just – The innocence of this single word in a statement or question begs for permission and kills your assertiveness, strength and conviction. In an interesting, LinkedIn Influencer Ellen Petry Leanse brought to light how women more often times used “just” and how drastically different it can change your message.
“I’m just following up on..” “I’m just saying...” “I just wanted to check in..”
If you take out the word ‘just,’ does it give your statement or question more strength and power?
Whichever has been your vice, here are a few simple steps you can take to mastery:
Start shining a light of awareness what space fillers you use and when
you use them.
Then make it a game to catch yourself using them. Don’t be afraid of the pause or leave quiet space between your words and sentences.
How can you say what you want to say with more clarity and confidence?
You know I love, love, love to hear from you! In the comments below, write down one word or phrase that kills credibility when presenting?
Always keep radiating your beautiful light to the world living life with passion, purpose and meaning.