Would you take it personal if you offer someone a piece of gum, and the person you were offering the piece of gum said, “No?”
We all put our pants on one leg at a time, so why all the fuss when we’re making a proposal in our business or even asking someone out on a date?
The #1 myth and mistake we make is when we tie our sense of worth and emotional attachment to the outcome or the “perceived rejection.”
Watch this week’s episode for the Do’s and Don’ts of overcoming Rejection!
If a person says ‘no,’ the meaning you give yourself is that they are rejecting you rather than the proposal or request. You essentially conclude this to be a true validation that you're not good enough.
However, is that the absolute truth?
Think of the last time you felt rejection or that you were personally rejected? Were you seeking the approval of someone else? True?
If you flip the situation, when someone was seeking your approval, did you feel unsure and doubtful about what they were offering? Also, true?
So what is really going on here? Let’s take a deeper dive into this “perceived rejection.”
What assumptions are you making about the situation?
An individual’s personal preferences, past experiences, the way they view the world, have an optimistic or pessimistic outlook on life has nothing to do with who you are or your sense of worth.
Any single scenario below can result in someone not being open to an opportunity:
Personal problems that need to be fixed before they are ready to hear what you have to say
Limiting and negative beliefs
They may not ‘get’ what you are talking about at first
They had too much pressure that day or mentally and emotionally running on overload
They are too dependent on the approval of others
Here are some Do’s and Don’ts to keep in mind whenever you are faced with rejection:
Tie your sense of worth or feeling good enough based on approval
Your first priority to see if they want to be with your or work with you
Convince, beg or come from a desperate and needy placed
Be the thermostat. Focus only on yourself
Have a healthy, unconditional love and respect for yourself. You first need to be completely convinced in your heart of the truth that the vision or opportunity you are presenting is so valuable that your passion for this vision pushes you beyond the point of no return.
Your purpose in sharing your vision or opportunity is not to have everyone like you or say, “Yes” to you. Your job is to qualify every individual to determine if they are the kind of person you want to be with or work with. Discover the truth about what the other person truly needs, their motives and motivates them.
Be true to yourself and detach from the outcome that you can’t control. The charisma that you exude is either attracting or repelling people as you interact with them. People will take a greater interest in what you have to say based on what you know and that you care about them.
Be the thermometer. Monitor the other individual’s emotional state. Anytime you can make someone feel better about themselves or their life, you will have a greater advantage in communicating and working with them.
If you loved this video, I would LOVE to hear from you and what is one way you overcome fear of rejection in the comments below?
Always keep radiating your beautiful light to the world living life with passion, purpose and meaning.